This post was password protected before, just to share it now after 3 years has passed.
Why is this world so sick? The increasing moral decay of sex scandal, affairs, infidelity increased tremendously in recent years, spouse cheating stories has become so common to the extend somebody close to us suffer from broken marriage, due to third party involvement spread around friends, relatives and families.
There are problems in every marriage, I don’t deny it but then why a problem in a marriage have to end up with affairs? Even recently, a friend asked me a question ‘ What do you call this relationship: a girl who is not the wife, not a girl friend, not a soul mate but in between all that?
My answer: Point blank . I told her .. ‘Nothing’ .. coz she denied she is soul mate to the Married Men and she denied she is the girl friend. She is nothing and holds no position in the heart of the Married Men. She told me that they are very good friend that share their feelings about their life issue, loneliness, sadness whatever.
Seriously, Married men who has intention towards her ain’t going to be best of friends, something must be cooking in between.. it needs time for things to happen. That’s all I can say.
In fact I am alarmed at my friend action, and I am alarmed that after my earlier warnings to her to stay away from the Married Men that she continue seeing him, while convincing me nothing will ever happen.
Her acceptance and claiming to be of sharing moments ‘talking heart’ with the Married men really make me imagining slapping her face, to be honest. I mean she knew that Married men has intention of going further.. she denied it.. because she is lonely. .. and need some attention. But come on, are all men dead? If they are, what attention is she seeking?
Her response is that the Married Men has marriage problem and need someone to talk to. Hah! Why must he talk to you? He should go back and talk to his wife. She think it is okay for her to hang out with the Married Men and listen to his marriage problem.. what about the wife? Isn’t it so private? What would the wife think? What kind of help she intend to give the Married Men? Oh.. this is the beginning of more to come.. I can tell, because she is protecting the Married men in our conversation. She is getting deeper into something. Maybe she already has but did not tell me I didn’t know.
By the way, how does she verify that the Married Men does have a real marriage problem and not creating stories to get her attention and sympathy? She wouldn’t know and it is stupid to be listening and believing him in the first place. What does this Married Men want? The Married men is obviously setting a trap, trying to befriend and get her sympathy and then what? There is no free lunch mind her. I knew she obviously know what she is doing, and I find her cruel. .. for her act. She is selfish and in the beginning of hurting those innocent ppl, the family of the Married Men.
Whatever the men tell, no matter it is true or not, it is not her responsibility to help him, he have to go back to his wife, talk, and reconcile and repair his marriage. If he is not doing that, but complains to you, he is actually holding a passport that doesn’t exist to cheat and have affair. A passport that shout he has broken marriage and its okay for him to cheat.
Please wake up my dear friend, I really hope you listen to me and do not choose this path. There are more fun to life than just seeing a life with a man that cannot offer you anything but sorrow.
Stay away from Married Men please! Love yourself and Have Dignity so you can hold your chin up without regrets.